That One Time Karma Got Me Back

I remember matching with this woman online, and from the looks of her profile, I thought she was very attractive. Soon after we begin to chat. Then a couple more days go by and we hopped on the phone and finally decide to meet for dinner. At this point I’m feeling excited because everything is going really good.

So the day of the date arrives and I’ve chosen a great spot for our dinner. I usually put a lot of thought into the types of places I decide to meet a woman for the first time. These are not your typical family restaurants. For me, when I meet someone I’m interested in I really put in work to make sure the ambience, the vibe, and the food are right. And like I always do when I get to meet somebody in person for the first time, I get there a little bit early, check in with hostess, sit at the table and wait for her to show up. I check my phone and see she texted me saying she made it and that she was walking in. So I look up I see her coming towards the table. When she gets to the table, I give her a hug and we sit down.

But about two or three minutes into the conversation, I realize that this is going to be the first and last time I’m going to see her. Looking back at it now, I really can’t remember what the reason was. I just know that I had an immediate feeling, even before sitting down. And this intuition usually tells me it’s either going to be really good or never again.

Almost immediately, a waitress comes over and lets us know she’s gonna get us a couple of waters first before taking our order. And that’s when my mind begins to estimate how much I’m going to end up spending. I calculate about $100. But knowing that I wasn’t gonna see this girl again, what do I do?

Before the waitress has a chance to come back, I let my date know that I need to go to the restroom. So I get up and when she can’t see me anymore, I start thinking about having my brother call with a “family emergency” to get me out of this date. But then I notice that the restroom is actually by the front door, so I decide to wait a couple of minutes and then leave… without telling her anything face to face. Instead, on the way to my car, I write her a text and say something like “Work had an emergency so I had to leave”. I send the message, get in my car and drive off.

Now I didn’t get off that easy. Let me tell you how this all comes back full circle a year later. So I’m on a different dating site and I see this girl that looks somewhat familiar but I know I’ve never seen these pictures. And I think she’s gorgeous so I swipe right and it’s a match. But before I can even say “Hey, how are you?” or “It’s nice to match with you”, she sends me a message that says,

“To leave a woman sitting at a table on her first date, not knowing what she was going through in preparations to meet you was so low and so degrading that it caused me not to online date for about 3 months. I felt so devalued as a woman and would’ve really respected you to say that you weren’t interested. So I hope you have grown the fuck up ✌🏾”

And then blocked me. So all I was left with was that message to read over and over again.